When you get married…. things change significantly

If you do not accept this,

Then quite possibly you will fail in your attempt to be the ‘perfect’ spouse

Or….

Eventually….

Your marriage as a whole will fail

I used to say regularly that I need ‘new married friends’

Not because I suddenly didn’t like my friends anymore

Or because I thought I was now above them having accomplished a goal that we had all hoped to achieve in years to come.

But

Because I realised that,

In marriage things have to change.

Whether we like it or not.

When I say change however I dont mean in totality.

I do not intend my words to mean ‘out with the old, and in with the new’

I mean changes need to be made in the context of additions.

Lets think about it this way….

If your the only one out of your friends that chooses not to drink profusely or attend parties every weekend, or even cheat on your partner…..

How easy would that be?

How many times could you say no before you give in and say yes….. just to…..

Fit in.

Its so much easier to abide by rules, and etiquette when those around you do the same.

With the addition of people who have the same experience or beliefs ect.

And who want to make the same decisions as you…or use the same value base….

Imagine how much easier it would be?

Its not about being afraid to admit that sometimes we get influenced by those around us,  but about realising that there is greater strength in numbers!

Change is inevitable

Strategies need to be identified to ensure that the battle is not lost, but fought with open arms.

Think about who you are associated with, and the influence they have on you.

The support they are able to provide you with and whether changes need to be made.

Then make those changes!

So you don’t end up loosing

as a consequence of association.