Death is harsh. It takes our loved ones and our friends. It has no regard for age, colour, social status or gender. It strikes when we least expect it, leaving behind sorrow and despair. It breaks people, ruining families, homes and even countries.

We may joke saying two things in this life are certain, taxes and death. But when death claims a life we lay broken even though we were aware of its certainty.

Today I watched the funeral service of Whitney Houston. A woman I have never met in my life. Never have I had the privilege to love her, to see her smile or even just to hang out. But as I watched the proceedings a sombre feeling of grief set in, as I too have lost a loved one.

Tonight my heart goes out to Whitney’s family, her mother, her siblings, and her child and for everyone out there who has suffered the loss of a loved one.  For the hardest part after loosing someone we love is the Moving on!

I don’t mean to be insensitive but when we experience a death instead of focusing on the loss we should focus on the life that was. (as was seen in whitney’s funeral)

The smiles and the joys that person shared with us whilst they where here should be at the forefront of our minds.

It not easy, as giving in to despair will always be the easier route but we all have the strength to fight it and go on to live positive lives.

To help us in this process of moving on we need the love and support of those around to us. A hug, a thoughtful email, a cooked meal, anything to let that grieving person know that your there for them.

The time it takes for all to move on is different, but is greatly helped along with support!

So if you happen to read this post please send up a prayer. A prayer not only for Whitney’s family during this time of bereavement. But a prayer for all those around the world who may have lost someone at some time.

With love

vinny

We can never turn back the pages of time, though we may wish to relive a happy moment, or say goodbye just one last time, we never can, because the sands of time continue to fall, and we can’t turn the hourglass over.

Tears are sometimes an inappropriate response to death. When a life has been lived completely honestly, completely successfully, or just completely, the correct response to death’s perfect punctuation mark is a smile.